Believe it or not, there are people who just don’t love or appreciate and believe in themselves enough. They look normal but in little ways, the belittle themselves and never give themselves enough credit for anything that happens in their lives.
What are the signs that people do not love themselves? They accept whatever people throw at them. They hang around people who talk down at them regularly. They never expect people to out of their way for them. They never say no to people invading their space. They never make demands of other people. They play down their achievements. They allow themselves to be the butt of every joke. They don’t like anything about themselves. If any of that describes you, then you need to love and appreciate yourself a bit more.
“What you think about yourself is much more important than what others think of you.”
– Marcus Annaeus Seneca
You may not realize what you are doing when you constantly criticize yourself. Particularly for the ladies-I am too fat. I am too thin. I am too tall or short. Or my skin is not good enough. Or I would rather be something I am not. How much can you possibly hate yourself? You must appreciate yourself just as you are.
“The things we hate about ourselves aren’t more real than things we like about ourselves.”
– Ellen Goodman
Some of us refuse to love ourselves in the life that we live. We don’t eat well. We smoke too much, drink too much, party too much. Some people add hard drugs to the bargain. Take another look in the mirror and see all the self hate. You need to love yourself some more and quit this type of self abuse.
How do some ladies stay in abusive or unfaithful relationships even when they are not married. It is understandable if they are married
because they want to stay faithful to their marriage vows, but in any other instance, it is completely unacceptable. How can you intentionally expose yourself to danger and say you love yourself?
“If you aren’t good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you’ll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren’t even giving to yourself.”
– Barbara De Angelis
“Find the love you seek, by first finding the love within yourself. Learn to rest in that place within you that is your true home.”
– Sri Sri Ravi Shankar
So we need to start loving, appreciating and celebrating who we are even though we are not perfect. Nobody is really. So start a self party in your heart. Celebrate you for who you are. If you don’t know one else will. Accept yourself just as you are- short, tall, fat, thin, whatever. We are not saying you should not make the effort to improve yourself. All we are saying is that, the fact that you need improvement in certain areas of your life does not mean you are worthless and unlovable. That cannot be true. You are still valuable, lovable, special but you are, like everyone else, a work-in-progress.
“You really have to look inside yourself and find your own inner strength, and say, “I’m proud of what I am and who I am, and I’m just going to be myself.”
– Mariah Carey
“The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate.”
– Oprah Winfrey
“Believing in our hearts that who we are is enough is the key to a more satisfying and balanced life.”
– Ellen Sue Stern
It is okay to love yourself. You have to love yourself. It is not selfish to love yourself. The good book says, Love your neighbor as yourself. You cannot begin to love others if you don’t truly love yourself. Jesus had a very high sense of self worth. He constantly spoke up about who he was, even in the face of so much hate from the Pharisees and elders of the land.
I believe that is what God expects from us. If we cannot appreciate ourselves, we can never really be useful to God or ourselves. We will continue to perform under capacity. Begin to see yourself for who you really are-a masterpiece, precious to God, the apple of His eye, created
for a purpose only you can fulfill. There can be no more original you. Love yourself. Ck