I always imagined how it would look in a dinner setting with couples holding little scented candles and renewing their vows. I got the chance to actually execute it at our inaugural Couple’s Hangout and it was just as beautiful and magical as I thought it would be.

Why candles? Wax melts and flows like oil. So I think of Psalm 133:1-3 (TPT Version) that says , “How truly wonderful and delightful to see brothers and sisters living together in sweet unity. It’s as precious as the sacred scented oil flowing from the head of the high priest, Aaron, dripping down upon his beard and running all the way down to the hem of his priestly robes. This heavenly harmony can be compared to the dew dripping down from the skies upon Mount Hermon, refreshing the mountain slopes of Israel. For from this realm of sweet harmony God will release his eternal blessing, the promise of life forever”.

Does this not draw a beautiful picture of what marriage is all about. The anointing of God’s goodness flowing from the top all the way down simply because they dwell together in sweet unity and harmony. The light from the candle signifies our families being the light of the world. Lets show the world a piece of Jesus as we live in sweet harmony. The fire represents the passion we have for each other and for God. The fire continues to burn and keep the marriage aglow for our God.

It was in this amazing atmosphere holding up the candles that we renewed our vows. We drew up a new set of vows. More contemporary and really relevant to our everyday living. Not poetic but realistic. Here goes:


As we renew our vows this evening, I want nothing more than to share my future with you.  You are my first, my last, my everything. You are mine and I am yours until the end of time, I choose to live with you, as your lover, your companion, and your friend.

I promise to love you the way God says I should, patient and kind. I promise not to be envious, boastful or proud. Rather, I will honour your goals and dreams, trying always, to encourage your fulfillment. I promise to respect you as a whole person with your own interests, desires, and needs. I will not be self-seeking. Rather I will be willing to face change as we both evolve, keeping our relationship alive and exciting. I will listen to you with compassion and understanding, and speak to you with encouragement.  I commit to building a home of laughter, love, support, and charity for us and our children.

I promise to love you at all times, when life is peaceful and when it is painful; during our successes and during our failures, the good times and the bad. I will support your strengths and accept your weaknesses. I will laugh with you in times of joy and comfort you in times of sorrow.

I will strive to be honest and open with you, sharing my thoughts and my life with you. I will share in your dreams and support you as you strive to achieve your goals. I promise to keep myself open to you, to let you into my innermost fears and feelings, secrets, and dreams. Together, I know we can accomplish the life we both dream of living. Together, we will build a home filled with learning, laughter, and light for us, our children and all who come in contact with our family.

We will be partners, friends, and lovers, today and all of the days of our lives. We will live together, trusting, hoping and persevering in the God who has called us. We will preserve and protect this love He has given us, all the days of our lives.

And finally, I promise to love you with all I have to give and all that I am, completely and forever because love never fails. So, help me God.

Amen and Amen.

The marriage vow is not a contract. It is a covenant. Only death of either party really revokes it. So we took our vows soberly and taking responsibility for the things we said. We trust God that as we have spoken so shall it be unto us, now and always.